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Double standards are one (two?) of my pet peeves. Maybe not my pet peeve because that gives the implication that i take it lightly. I do not.
So, in my life... I think of things, or notice things, that i do not like to see people doing.
Driving down the road, i'll see someone not using their signal light. So instead of getting mad at them and yelling about bad drivers, i'll make sure that i don't irritate anyone else by doing that thing that irritated me. I always use my signal light!
Before i was married, i made a list of characteristics of all the things i want to see in a future husband. I came to the realization that i should make myself worthy of these expectations. I should be training myself to be everything a man of those qualities would be looking for. It only makes sense if i don't want to be one of those folks with double standards, a "do-as-i-say-and-not-as-i-do"er.

God gave instructions to both men and women... (and as much as i want a man who will act out his part, i have to be willing to be the woman who can live with that man.)

Ephesians 5:21 says, Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. What does this mean?

So if i'm asking for:
Ephesians 5:25-26a, 27-31
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy... In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church- for we are members of His body.

To compliment that man i need to be:
Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Saviour. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Tall orders on both sides. But God has His reasons, and i trust those reasons!

In Conclusion:
...Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)

Ephesians 5:8-11 (KJV) - ...Ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light: (For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;) Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord. And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.

Ephesians 5:8-11 (GW) - Once you lived in the dark, but now the Lord has filled you with light. Live as children who have light. Light produces everything that is good, that has God's approval, and that is true. Determine which things please the Lord. Have nothing to do with the useless works that darkness produces. Instead, expose them for what they are.

O, to have God's approval! To walk as a child of light... Lord give me strength!

We've all been there... Decision-making skills stretched to the max. When it's time to decide between the Good and the Evil. When it's time to choose between the Spirit and the Flesh.
It helps to know that all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23)... It also helps to know that God chooses to use people who are sinners. (Who else is there?)

In Romans 7, Paul talks about his struggles... Paul who was one of the greatest disciples of Jesus Christ.

He says, I know that nothing good lives in me; that is, nothing good lives in my corrupt nature. Although I have the desire to do what is right, I don't do it. I don't do the good I want to do. Instead, I do the evil that I don't want to do. Now, when I do what I don't want to do, I am no longer the one who is doing it. Sin that lives in me is doing it. (Romans 7:18-20)

So is there any hope for me if PAUL was still sinning? I'm trying to be like Jesus, and it's so hard... Is there hope?

Paul offers us words of Hope.

Romans 8:2 - The standards of the Spirit, who gives life through Christ Jesus, have set you free from the standards of sin and death. It is impossible to do what God's standards demand because of the weakness our human nature has. But God sent his Son to have a human nature as sinners have and to pay for sin.

So... how does this help me? I'm still a bit confused here... It's impossible for me to be perfect, right? But God sent His Son to pay for my sins...

...If Christ lives in you, your bodies are dead because of sin, but your spirits are alive because you have God's approval. (Romans 8:10)

So... by accepting Christ into my life, i'm reviving my spirit... The spirit is the good part of me... the part that wants to do GOOD. so what happens to the evil part? The flesh?

Romans 8:12-14 - So, brothers and sisters, we have no obligation to live the way our corrupt nature wants us to live. If you live by your corrupt nature, you are going to die. But if you use your spiritual nature to put to death the evil activities of the body, you will live. Certainly, all who are guided by God's Spirit are God's children.

The flesh, the Evil, is beaten down by the spirit, the Good. The Good outweighs the Evil.
Quite the battle... Quite the Victory.

Psalm 55:6-8
I said, "If only I had wings like a dove -
I would fly away and find rest.
Indeed, I would run far away.
I would stay in the desert.
I would hurry to find shelter
from the raging wind and storm."

But i don't have wings... and i have to stay where i am.

But I call on God,
and the Lord saves me.
Morning, noon, and night I complain and groan,
and He listens to my voice. (Psalm 55:17-18)

He will rescue me... He is listening to my voice.

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